The other night I got a text from a friend, asking if I could come in the following day to be a guest on the new Melissa Etheridge radio show.  As if this should be a question at all?  There are certain opportunities in life that present themselves, and you do them without hesitation.  I immediately replied with a resounding; OF COURSE!!!!!  Living in Los Angeles, I have become accustomed to seeing and sometimes working with celebrities.  But then there are the moments when I have the honor of working with a person that I really admire, and no matter how cool I try to play it – I get nervous.

That morning I popped out of bed and tried to convince myself that my anxiety was just enthusiasm for this interview.  “I feel frannies!” I said to David.  “Frannies” (short for frantic)  is a word I tend to use when I’m feeling nervous about something.  I channeled my creative energy into selecting the perfect outfit (keep in mind that this is radio and no one will actually see what I am wearing).  I poured myself a cup of Joe and ate a piece of toast with David’s world-famous eggplant spread.  That spread could change lives.  As I sipped my coffee, that pesky inner-voice started rambling:

What if my readings are terrible?
What if people don’t call in?
You better be careful with what you say mister!

After years of doing readings privately and in front of audiences, I have become pretty good at ignoring that voice and pushing through it.  As I arrived at the studio, I was greeted by my dear friend Heather, who produces the show.  I was hoping that seeing a familiar face would relax me, but unfortunately that voice popped up again.

Don’t make Heather look bad!  This a new project for her and she asked you to come in, so you better call out some winning lottery numbers!

I quietly walked into the room, pulled up a chair and put my earphones on to eavesdrop on the conversation.  Melissa has the most soothing tone to her voice.  She was setting up the next segment that I would be a part of.

“My favorite Psychic and Queer Guy Dougall Fraser will be joining us, and we will be taking your calls”,  Melissa effortlessly says into the mic.

How cool is it that she just said I am her favorite psychic?  It’s game time.  When I do a public appearance, be it TV or Radio I do a small visualization in my mind’s eye.  It is essentially a short version of my color meditation. I can still carry on a conversation with people around me and not a single person in the room knows that I am gearing up to connect with energy.  Not only am I opening my psychic senses, but more importantly I am asking that “crazy” self-sabotage voice to take a back seat.

Before I even have a chance to worry about getting calls, the room starts to look like a dance club.  There is a flashing strobe light in front of me that has PHONE PHONE written all over it to alert us that calls are coming in.  There can’t be a ringer because we are on the air, so I close my eyes to avoid the flashing (and a possible seizure).  Within seconds our first caller is patched through to us.

“This is Melissa Etheridge and Trisha you are on The Melissa Etheridge show, say hi to Dougall.”

I listen to Trisha ask her question about her desire to become the principal of her school.  Immediately I can sense in her voice and her energy that she hasn’t quite reached the point of owning a leadership position.  There is hesitation and a fair amount of self-doubt.  Trisha and I banter back and forth about her self-doubt and I give her manifesting tips on owning that position before the job is even offered to her.

“Basically Trisha, you have to fake it till you make it!”  I say into the mic.  Then I have a thought.  “Melissa, I’m curious, when you are backstage at a concert do you ever have self-doubt?”

I was a little nervous about asking this question to a Grammy winner.  I know for myself that when I see someone perform in front of thousands of people on a very regular basis, I just assume that they are void of self-doubt, stage fright, or any resemblance of my crazy voice.  I can’t recall exactly what she said but here it is in a nutshell.

“Of course I do!” Melissa quickly replies.  “but when I am backstage and hear the roar of the crowd I think to myself, ‘they seem to think I am a Rock Star.  I guess I better go out there and BE a rock star!”

I love this answer, and think that it will help our caller.  “Trisha!  If Melissa Etheridge, Grammy-winning, multi platinum-selling recording artist has self-doubt, then everyone must have it.  The trick is to push through it.”

This boggles my mind and also gives me a great sense of peace.  I have read for thousands of people in my career.  And one of the most common struggles I witness as  a psychic and life coach is self-doubt.  It can be as simple as hesitating to strike up a conversation with a stranger at a party.   Or being the first person in a relationship to say I love you.  It could be setting a meeting up with your boss to pitch a new idea.  Or with me it might be a case of the frannies due to being on air with Melissa Etheridge.

Between breaks Melissa and I chatted about her kids, TV, books, cities and my mind started to ease that I was no longer talking to a rock star.  I was just connecting with another person.

When I left the studio I had this fantasy about having Melissa on my show.  As soon as I had that thought, that charming voice entered my mind.

Are you crazy? You think Melissa Etheridge has time to come on your rinky dink show?

When I got home I reflected on what a day I had, and how blessed I am to meet such creative souls on my journey in life.  Then an even stronger and more powerful voice entered my head.

Why not just ask her team if she wants to be a guest?  The worst scenario is that they say no.  What do you have to lose?

Before mister negative voice could pipe up in my head, I emailed Heather, asking if she thought Melissa would ever do a quick segment on my show.  Within seconds she replied with a resounding yes!

This week I ask you to look at self-doubt and hesitation in your life.  When we are in our flow we express ourselves freely without attachment to a response or outcome.  As a psychic and life coach I am constantly practicing quieting my mind so that my heart can do the talking.  Let’s all take some time to erase hesitation from our minds and leap directly into life!