If you randomly got a strong intuitive feeling about a friend, would you tell them?

What if it was someone you don’t know well, or a stranger?

Intuitive people often receive messages or information about others and want to help.

For example, do we tell our friend that their promising blind date doesn’t feel like a good match, and she likely won’t be calling back? After all, this would only help them save time, right?

If you’ve ever offered your intuitive hunch at the wrong moment (or to someone who hasn’t asked) you know that it may be received in exactly the opposite of your intention.

So the question is, to share or not to share?

In my experience, it’s important to first get clear on why we want to share this information in the first place. We may only want to help, but there’s also a chance that this information is more about balancing our energy.

On my Unity Radio show this week, I shared a story on the show about my social anxiety. Sometimes, I have found myself psychically tuning into others as a way of minimizing my own feelings.

When I was around 18 years old, a friend invited me to a big, blowout birthday party. There was going to be a beer keg, music, dancing and a lot of people that I didn’t know. I didn’t drink and hadn’t a clue how to operate a keg, let alone that it would be illegal for me to consume beer at that age. The thought of mingling and dancing with mostly strangers was absolutely terrifying to me.

Almost immediately, I went to what I knew.

“I can read tarot cards for everyone if you want? People could enjoy the party and get some psychic guidance too!”

This was met with great enthusiasm. So I went to the party, set up a table in a back room and spent the entire evening doing free readings.

Looking back, I made this offer because I was anxious about socializing. I didn’t feel good or interesting enough. I didn’t know how to connect with people or how to let them see the real me. But reading the energy of others all night could be so fun! I would be enjoying the party and helping others at the same time. Plus I’d immediately have something to talk about with people! SIGN. ME. UP.

I didn’t realize it then, but I now know that I was avoiding my emotions.

My intention was to help, bit I chose to connect psychically with others as a way of reducing my own feelings.

For sensitive people, it is often easier to focus on the energy of others than to feel our own.

If my 18-year old self was totally honest, I probably would have replied to that party invitation by saying: The truth is that I am scared. I’ve never been to a big party. I want to go but I feel nervous, and giving readings is a way to feel like I belong.

This would have allowed me to focus my intuition on my own well-being, and also possibly connect with new friends in a genuine way.

For this reason, I find it very important to check in with myself before sharing any kind of intuitive messages. I do this to make sure that delivering the message isn’t subconsciously overshadowing my own fear or block.

Emotions are big on the planet right now. And without grounding our energy regularly, we can start to feel like we’re being pulled from our center.

There are many ways of grounding our energy, and any of them can help you get clear on whether you should share an intuitive message.

One method that I like is to place my hand over my heart. I’ll close my eyes and take several deep breaths until it feels like my inner thoughts are quieting down. I like to visualize blue in my mind as I do this, to heighten truth and wisdom within myself. I will then ask myself, how do I feel? Can I feel the rhythm of my own heart?

Once I’m ready, I will then ask if there are any emotions within myself that I’m avoiding. And if something comes up, I know that I need to address my own energy first.

Using our intuition is powerful, but it’s important to know when.

I went into more detail and provide several tips on managing your energy in these situations to listen to the podcast: click here

Much Love,

For years I have been asked how I perceive energy around others. I’ve taught my techniques to many clients during in-person workshops, and for the first time I will be teaching the same concepts online! It is much easier to do than people think and a great way to heighten intuition. Check out my brand new Spiritual Vision Training program!